Kyle wrote this January 04, 2017
For the most part, gay dating is similar to straight dating. In fact, the only real difference is that when dating gay men, you're not courting a member of the opposite sex. Instead of trying to woo a woman, you're trying to woo a man. It’s the same game just different players.
The most important thing to do is to be confident and be yourself. Whatever you do, don’t act like someone else. Unless all you're looking for is a one night stand, you need to be genuine with your potential partners. There's a lot of pressure in the gay community to be a certain way, but how would you feel if you got into a relationship with someone only to find they weren't themselves at all.
Gay men are intimidating. Gays usually take very good care of their bodies and their looks and usually have huge personalities. Here's where quieter guys suffer. If you have a more timid nature, it's time to step up and join the conversation.
You need to get out there if you're going to meet anyone. If you sit at your home, in front of your computer, there’s not much chance of success. Sure, there are dating apps, but finding a mate, you're going to need to go out to bars and clubs and socialize. It may come as a reality check to you, but you need to move your ass! There’s no benefit to sitting down and moaning about how you've been left behind by the gay community.
Instead of crying, try to go out and meet new people. Use your apps for gay dating and schedule dinner with some excellent suitor. Grab a beer with some friends or head out to the club and flirt your ass off. The possibilities are endless; you set the limits. So, start thinking of way socialize
You know, dating is all about instant success. If you can’t manage to find a right partner for a long time, try changing your cologne, hairstyle, or maybe spruce up your style.
There might be something you do or wear that is off-putting. Ask your friends if you chew with your mouth open or if your shoes are weird. It might be time to ditch the Sketchers and mind your posture. Also, try to change places you visit. A new environment means new dating prospects.
Dating in the gay community is as easy as you want it to be, sometimes it does require a little effort from you. By making a modification to your life or appearance, you might increase your chances of getting a first or even a second date! People who feel good and sexy have much more success in dating than individuals who don't carry themselves like they're proud of their appearance.
But make sure not to change who you are at the core to get some twink's attention.
If you want an authentic relationship with an honest guy, you need to hold yourself to the same standards. Refrain from paying attention to hot people who are entirely different than you. Spend time with someone who shares your world views and interests. You don't want to enter into a relationship with a pretty face; you want someone with a beautiful soul.
Dating a person who has similar interests is much more efficient than chasing after someone who isn't right for you just because they're attractive. Successful dating is all about being honest, with your partner and with yourself about what you really need and want from a man.
Relationships don't succeed when you lie about who you are, what you're interested in, or what you want. The truth might seem difficult to voice, but it's worth it in the long run. Don't be afraid, to be honest about your interests, your intentions, or who you are. You'll benefit from being your honest self.
Before you arrange a date with Mr. Perfect, you need to evaluate the situation. First of all, does he have the qualities you’re looking for? Is he just a pretty face or is his personality attractive? All of these questions need an answer before you sail into a date.
Before you go out looking for a mate, you need to get your priorities straight. Evaluate yourself, your needs, and what you find attractive. List your red flags and your deal breakers - no really, physically listing them helps! Dating is inherently complicated. So simplify the process a little bit by knowing what you want and need before going out and meeting people. After you have the perfect man in mind, find him.
Make sure that you're not compromising your needs for wants. For instance, if you need a sensitive guy, but you're seeing someone who's very sexy but equally stoic you need to move on.
Confidence is truly key. If you're not confident in yourself or if you're unhappy with your appearance you're not going to get very far. As Ru Paul says: "If you can't love yourself, how the hell are you going to love someone else?"
Lack of confidence and self-love can put a stop to anyone's dating life. To have a successful relationship, you need to have love for yourself first. If you don't appreciate yourself for who you are, you're likely to settle for lesser people or allow others to walk all over you. That's not fair to yourself. You need to make sure you are confident in yourself so that you can find someone who treats you right.
A lot of relationships don't happen because you don't let them blossom. There's a difference between settling and writing someone off for one flaw. Do you ever catch yourself thinking something like, "This guy is great, but I just can't get past his lack of fashion sense"? Well, if you do, you might need to stop being so shallow and mortified of commitment. Stop being so judgmental.
What if that guy is exceptionally smart? What if he’s a doctor? Imagine how you'd feel if someone broke it off with you for your choice in shoes or how you do your hair? You should try to take looks out of the equation. Attraction is important, but will his poor choice in clothing matter when he's naked?
Dating within the gay realm doesn't need to be further complicated by shallowness and high expectations. Playing the dating game is difficult enough without injecting unnecessary drama. If you're only looking for a mature relationship, you need to look at a person as a whole and not how their personality is packaged.